Fr. Ruben Tanseco, S.J. Sexually Abused Me.

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 I am writing this blog to share my random thoughts and reflections about my experience of sexual abuse from the Jesuit whose name is Fr. Ruben Tanseco. I consider writing and expressing myself as a therapeutic activity. An important goal of this blog is therapeutic on my part as a victim of sexual abuse. I may mention names of persons and organizations for the sake of truth and transparency, not to discredit anyone. I do not intend to defame anyone. It took a lot of courage on my part to make this disclosure happen. I am publicly disclosing something about my dark and tragic past that has greatly and significantly affected me and the kind of person that I am now. It is about my dark  past that cries out for justice, and real justice for that matter. This blog represents my personal crusade for justice, the kind of justice that is truly and significantly restorative of the dignity taken away from a victim of sexual abuse.

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  3. I’m also a survivor of childhood and adult sexual abuse. A couple of pastors/youth pastors from my church and my Uncle, who was a minister, were some of my abusers. I’m glad that you are finding ways to express yourself here and are sharing your story openly.

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  5. Well done for standing up to those supposedly religious people who abuse others, using their position of trust to do so. And many thanks for following my blog too.
    Best wishes, Pete.

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  6. I gather nothing is happening on the legal front. I’m sorry about that and about the abuse you experienced. Regardless of the clothes we wear and the jobs we have, people can still be terrible and do terrible things. This was a terrible thing. I hope your blog helps you overcome the negativity. Overcoming it is a way to say, “F$&& you, I won’t be shaped by your violence against me!!”

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  7. Thank you for telling the truth. May I add here please that knowing the Saviour and what He accomplished at Calvary can mean complete and life restoring HEALING. The past can be buried under the BLOOD. That does not mean that justice is not also necessary. But healing only comes completely when we all can SURRENDER our pasts to Christ. Healing is for the benefit of victims. Desire for Justice often continues to destroy the victim for the rest of their lives. Tell the truth. Then let it go. Your true testimony may be the means of restoring thousands of lives. Remaining victims only destroys sometimes the HOPE of others. Blessings and Peace!

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  8. I understand your need to express your feeling concerning your abuse. I started writing a blog for reasons of sanity’s sake. Over about a twelve-year span of writing I’ve found myself to be what I consider now to be my most sane years of my life. Getting things out of my system has indeed been a help.

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      1. It’s a challenge. But it can be done. I speak from experience. If at all possible, don’t let these negative experiences rob you of your faith. God remains a loving God. And you remain precious to Him. ❤

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  11. I like how raw and real you are on your blog. I too was molested by someone I knew when I was younger by a woman no less…someone in a position of trust and it affected me without me realizing it as I grew up. But I do thank God for showing me the path to restoration, forgiveness and learning that there are indeed evil people in this world, however, despite this, we should not be overcome by what they did to us…but rather overcome and triumph evil by doing good. I don’t know where you are in your life but I pray that you’ll find restoration and peace as you continue your journey in life. God Bless! 🙂 – Sherline.

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  12. Thank you for exposing such unfair treatment! May you find healing for the wounds dealt you by the real Lord Jesus who was treated so horrifically on our behalf. We specially appreciate that you follow our blog.

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  13. Damn, dude… I just read through all your posts. I’m sorry as hell for what you went through.

    While I’ve never been sexually abused myself, my mother was an incest victim. She wound up with a Narcissistic Personality Disorder, and thus my own childhood was defined by sadistic manipulation, brutal verbal abuse, and occasional physical abuse. Abuse just begets more abuse, you know? By being aware of how damaging your molester’s behavior was, you have now seized the power to break the cycle. I wish my mother had been so strong.

    Interestingly, the founder of your abuser’s order – Ignatius Loyola – was labeled as the ‘mammary theologian’ by Protestants for making this infamous statement: ‘It is no great sin to fondle the breasts of a nun’. It appears his followers adopted some elements of his ‘theology’.

    I would gently and lovingly remind you, though… God is God. That some people invoke His name in order to prey upon the innocent is no reflection upon God Himself. We live in a fallen world, since our forbear Adam chose to introduce sin into a world that God intended to be perfect… but Adam made that choice, not God. I am absolutely certain that God weeps over your pain, and is eager to help heal it if you’ll let Him.

    I also think that it was a mistake for certain ‘orders’ to borrow Greek ideals of monasticism, as opposed to letting their clerics marry like everyone else. That just INVITES deviants in, you know?

    In any case, God bless you for sharing your story. Hopefully it will make other perverted ‘priests’ run scared. I applaud your courage, and I will pray that you find some peace both in this life and the next.

    In Christ – Shaun

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    1. hi shaun. thanks for sharing your thoughts. i have to be strong despite my experience of abuse. i try my best to break the cycle which i am fully aware of. i can only wish for justice to finally win over deceit. i am not afraid to tell my story to the whole world if only to inspire others to have courage and speak out in order to end all sorts of abuse. once again, thanks, shaun.

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  14. jAs a counselor I can assure you that you speak for many. Your God of truth says, “Do not be afraid for I am with you. Do not be dismayed for I am your God. I will help you, I will strengthen you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.” Is 40:10.

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