Cura personalis is something I heard from Jesuits. It is supposed to mean respect for all that make up each individual. Everything that makes up an individual is worthy of care and attention. Fr. Ruben Tanseco is a Jesuit. As such, he must be familiar with what cura personalis is. As I experience flashbacks of how Fr. Tanseco played with my genitals and licked my nipples, I think of how he violated the principle of cura personalis. As he sucked my penis, he reduced me to a sexual object, a thing to be used and abused. I cannot think of such acts by a Jesuit as concretely living out the spirit of the cura personalis. As a rector and formator of Jesuit scholastics, he must have talked about what cura personalis is to Jesuit scholastics undergoing formation. I am just puzzled at his capacity to live such a double life of preaching cura personalis and do damage to me by sexually abusing me.